How to Alienate Family

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Patscga

How to Alienate Family

Legg inn av Patscga » 08 nov 2004 18:53:45

I have and aunt and uncle with 3 children (all over 60 by now), one of whom is
adopted. I wrote to the 2 "natural" children asking for the names and dates of
their children and grandchildren. I didn't hear from either and called one who
was rather hostile and asked if I didn't want the names and dates for Jim the
adopted son. Of course I said yes but I still don't have the names and dates I
wanted.
I should have written to all 3 and I pass this along in case you have a similar
situation.
Pat

michael kenefick

Re: How to Alienate Family

Legg inn av michael kenefick » 08 nov 2004 23:51:53

Be sure you call "Jim" ASAP and apologize, no impersonal e-mail. Let him know you
were planning to contact him as well, it was an oversight. Mike

Patscga wrote:

I have and aunt and uncle with 3 children (all over 60 by now), one of whom is
adopted. I wrote to the 2 "natural" children asking for the names and dates of
their children and grandchildren. I didn't hear from either and called one who
was rather hostile and asked if I didn't want the names and dates for Jim the
adopted son. Of course I said yes but I still don't have the names and dates I
wanted. I should have written to all 3 and I pass this along in case you have a
similar situation.
Pat

CWatters

Re: How to Alienate Family

Legg inn av CWatters » 09 nov 2004 18:41:58

"Patscga" <patscga@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20041108125345.06675.00000239@mb-m15.aol.com...
I have and aunt and uncle with 3 children (all over 60 by now), one of
whom is
adopted. I wrote to the 2 "natural" children asking for the names and
dates of
their children and grandchildren. I didn't hear from either and called
one who
was rather hostile and asked if I didn't want the names and dates for Jim
the
adopted son. Of course I said yes

Should have said ... Didn't he get my letter as well? : -)

Patscga

Re: How to Alienate Family

Legg inn av Patscga » 09 nov 2004 18:53:43

Good one.


I have and aunt and uncle with 3 children (all over 60 by now), one of
whom is
adopted. I wrote to the 2 "natural" children asking for the names and
dates of
their children and grandchildren. I didn't hear from either and called
one who
was rather hostile and asked if I didn't want the names and dates for Jim
the
adopted son. Of course I said yes

Should have said ... Didn't he get my letter as well? : -)




Pat

Skippy

Re: How to Alienate Family

Legg inn av Skippy » 15 nov 2004 23:53:04

patscga@aol.com (Patscga) wrote in
news:20041109125343.21692.00000314@mb-m14.aol.com:

Good one.


I have and aunt and uncle with 3 children (all over 60 by now), one
of whom is adopted.

I am adopted by my mother's 2nd husband, and I'll tell you from experience,
no matter how many times you've heard adoptees saying they felt like an
outsider and didn't fit in, there are many more that have wonderful
"families" I was told when I was very young, about 5. And there was no way
you could have convinced me that I wasn't a part of my adopted family. And
please don't call anyone the "real" parent (Natural is ok) I was given a
homework asignment to draw a family tree. The teacher then spent the next 1
1/2 hours telling me I couldn't possibly have 6 grandparents. She finally
called my mother promptly taught her the definition of "family". The most
hurtful thing I ever heard was when I was told I wouldn't be given any
memento of my g-grandma because i wasn't really a "Smith". If you want to
leave any out, omit some of the past, never the future.

Just my opinion

Skippy

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